Len
Gane
2017
Update 19 Apr 19
Marriage
B1
God’s will
C1 Verses
D1
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to
his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
(Genesis 2:24, NKJV)
D2 “So
then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has
joined together, let not man separate.”
(Matthew 19:6, NKJV)
C1 Some may not want marriage
C2 Some may want but won’t
be married
D1 No one available
D2 Eunuchs for the kingdom, or
by force (as from a King)
E1
But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only
[those] to whom it has been given: “For there are eunuchs who were
born thus from [their] mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who
were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made
themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able
to accept [it,] let him accept [it.”] (Matthew 19:11-12, NKJV)
E2
Jesus answered, “This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only
to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons
why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others,
because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake
of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do
so.” (Matthew
19:11-12, GNB92)
D3 No one asked
B2
God blesses
C1
And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone;
I will make him a helper comparable to him."
(Genesis 2:18, NKJV)
C2
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but
fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
(Hebrews 13:4, NKJV).
C3
Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your
youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy
you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love. For why
should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be
embraced in the arms of a seductress?
(Proverbs 5:18-20, NKJV).
C4
Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain
life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity;
for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform
under the sun.
(Ecclesiastes 9:9, NKJV)
C5
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not
parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not
seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in
iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all
things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
(1 Corinthians 9:4-8a, NKJV)
C6 And many other verses
Divorce
B1
Not God’s will: This
is another thing you do. You drown the LORD's altar with tears,
weeping and wailing because he no longer accepts the offerings you
bring him. You ask why he no longer accepts them. It is because he
knows you have broken your promise to the wife you married when you
were young. She was your partner, and you have broken your promise to
her, although you promised before God that you would be faithful to
her. Didn't God make you one body and spirit with her? What was his
purpose in this? It was that you should have children who are truly
God's people. So make sure that none of you breaks his promise to his
wife. “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel. “I hate it
when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that
you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife.”
(Malachi 2:13-16, GNB92)
B2
By permission
C1 Sexual sins
D1 Incest:
E1 The LORD gave the following
regulations. Do not
have sexual intercourse with any of your relatives. Do not disgrace
your father by having intercourse with your mother. You must not
disgrace your own mother. Do not disgrace your father by having
intercourse with any of his other wives. Do not have intercourse with
your sister or your stepsister, whether or not she was brought up in
the same house with you. Do not have intercourse with your
granddaughter; that would be a disgrace to you. Do not have
intercourse with a half sister; she, too, is your sister. Do not have
intercourse with an aunt, whether she is your father's sister or your
mother's sister. --- Do not have intercourse with your uncle's wife;
she, too, is your aunt. Do not have intercourse with your
daughter-in-law or with your brother's wife. Do not have intercourse
with the daughter or granddaughter of a woman with whom you have had
intercourse; they may be related to you, and that would be incest. Do
not take your wife's sister as one of your wives, as long as your
wife is living.
(Leviticus 18:6-18, GNB92)
E2 Compare the sin happening
in Corinth. 1 Corinthians 5:1-5 PickNT It
is actually reported that there is fornication among you, and such
fornication as not even pagans talk about—that someone has his
father's wife! 2 And you are puffed up and not even grieved, so as to
exclude the one who has done this deed from your fellowship. 3 For I
indeed, as present in spirit though absent in body, have already
judged the one who created this situation, as though I were present:
4 in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, you and my spirit being
together, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, 5 we must hand
such a one over to Satan for a destruction of the 'flesh', that the
spirit may be saved in the Day of the Lord Jesus.
D2 Adultery
E1 Verses
F1
When Jesus finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went to
the territory of Judea on the other side of the Jordan River. Large
crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to
him and tried to trap him by asking, “Does our Law allow a man to
divorce his wife for whatever reason he wishes?” Jesus answered,
“Haven't you read the scripture that says that in the beginning the
Creator made people male and female? And God said, ‘For this reason
a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and
the two will become one.’ So they are no longer two, but one. No
human being must separate, then, what God has joined together.” The
Pharisees asked him, “Why, then, did Moses give the law for a man
to hand his wife a divorce notice and send her away?” Jesus
answered, “Moses gave you permission to divorce your wives because
you are so hard to teach. But it was not like that at the time of
creation. I tell you, then, that any man who divorces his wife for
any cause other than her unfaithfulness, commits adultery if he
marries some other woman.”
(Matthew 19:1-9, GNB92)
F2 “But
I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except
sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries
a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
(Matthew 5:32, NKJV)
E2 Comment
F1 Does not mean you must
divorce
F2 Does mean it is allowed.
Often this is preferred.
D3 Porn
E1 Verse: “But
I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except
sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries
a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
(Matthew 5:32, NKJV)
E2 Comment
F1 The word for sexual
immorality is
πορνεία porneia.
F2 The word includes adultery,
incest, and porn
F3 This is a serious addiction
that God hates.
F4 It is adultery in the
heart.
F5 Can be repented of but not
common.
C2 Desertion
D1 Physical leaving
E1 Verse: But
if the unbelieving partners leave, let them go. Under these
circumstances a Christian man or Christian woman is not bound by a
marriage vow. God has called you to live in peace.
(I Corinthians 7:15 [GodsWord])
E2 Comment
F1 Not all agree with this
interpretation
F2 Many do
F3 The individual must decide
D2 Spiritual leaving
E1 This is becoming an
agnostic, atheist, or abandoning Christ for another religion.
E2 This is allowed, because it
is a denial of one’s vows and a spiritual danger to the believing
spouse.
E3 Divorce is recommended.
E4 Remarriage is allowed.
D3 Abuse
E1 This is not because the
toilet paper unrolls the wrong way.
E2 It is physical, sexual,
spiritual, financial, mental, emotional, verbal, etc. abuse.
E3 This is desertion of the
marriage vows.
E4 Divorce is recommended.
E5 No contact to low contact
is necessary.
E6 Remarriage is allowed.
E7 1 Corinthians 5:11 GW Now,
what I meant was that you should not associate with people who call
themselves brothers or sisters in the Christian faith but live in
sexual sin, are greedy, worship false gods, use abusive language, get
drunk, or are dishonest. Don't eat with such people.
C3 If you stay, you or your
children may lose salvation and faith
D1 A relationship that might
lead to a denial of Jesus Christ
E1 Verses
F1
All these men had foreign wives. They divorced them and sent them and
their children away.
(Ezra 10:44, GNB92)
F2 “The
LORD your God will bring you into the land that you are going to
occupy, and he will drive many nations out of it. As you advance, he
will drive out seven nations larger and more powerful than you: the
Hittites, the Girgashites, the Amorites, the Canaanites, the
Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. When the LORD your God
places these people in your power and you defeat them, you must put
them all to death. Do not make an alliance with them or show them any
mercy. Do not marry any of them, and do not let your children marry
any of them, because then they would lead your children away from the
LORD to worship other gods. If that happens, the LORD will be angry
with you and destroy you at once. So then, tear down their altars,
break their sacred stone pillars in pieces, cut down their symbols of
the goddess Asherah, and burn their idols. Do this because you belong
to the LORD your God. From all the peoples on earth he chose you to
be his own special people.
(Deuteronomy 7:1-6, GNB92)
E2 Comment
F1 Marrying non-Israelite
women within the boundaries of Israel was forbidden for the reason
given above. Deuteronomy 7:1-6
F2 Marrying non-Israelite
women outside the boundaries of Israel was allowed
G1 “When
you go to attack a city, first give its people a chance to surrender.
If they open the gates and surrender, they are all to become your
slaves and do forced labor for you. But if the people of that city
will not surrender, but choose to fight, surround it with your army.
Then, when the LORD your God lets you capture the city, kill every
man in it. You may, however, take for yourselves the women, the
children, the livestock, and everything else in the city. You may use
everything that belongs to your enemies. The LORD has given it to
you. That is how you are to deal with those cities that are far away
from the land you will settle in.
(Deuteronomy 20:10-15, GNB92)
G2 “When
the LORD your God gives you victory in battle and you take prisoners,
you may see among them a beautiful woman that you like and want to
marry. Take her to your home, where she will shave her head, cut her
fingernails, and change her clothes. She is to stay in your home and
mourn for her parents for a month; after that, you may marry her.
Later, if you no longer want her, you are to let her go free. Since
you forced her to have intercourse with you, you cannot treat her as
a slave and sell her.
(Deuteronomy 21:10-14, GNB92)
D2 Might lead to a type of
abuse, spiritual abuse.
Remarriage
B1
Not necessary
B2
If wished
C1 Allowable for
D1 Death: For
the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to [her] husband as
long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the
law of [her] husband. So then if, while [her] husband lives, she
marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her
husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no
adulteress, though she has married another man.
(Romans 7:2-3, NKJV)
D2 Permissible reasons (listed
above)
C2 Only in the Lord: A
wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband
dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the
Lord. (1
Corinthians 7:39, NKJV)
Summary:
For
sexual sins as incest (Leviticus 18:6-18), adultery (Matthew 19:1-9),
porn, which is adultery (Matthew 19:1-9), desertion (1 Corinthians
7:15), if spouse causes spiritual danger (false religion, religiously
militant, violent)(Ezra 10:44, Deuteronomy 7:1-6), abuse (including
physical, spiritual, verbal, financial, sexual, emotional, etc. This
is a desertion of marriage vows, and they always need to divorce)(see
1 Corinthians 5:11, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
